tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7847873995709228069.post8332139245220403725..comments2023-11-05T05:10:42.646-06:00Comments on Army Blogger Wife: How much do you help?ABWhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05544504553967017050noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7847873995709228069.post-27452669616413376382010-08-29T16:38:40.905-06:002010-08-29T16:38:40.905-06:00I'm pretty much where you're at. I watch p...I'm pretty much where you're at. I watch parents go way overboard in helping their kids. It's crazy.<br /><br />For instance, a few years ago, there was a fundraiser to help the 8th grade kids go on a trip. There was a car wash. When I got there, the kids were playing around, the MOTHERS were washing the cars. This other guy (a cop) and I got the kids in order, made them do the work, told the mothers to go do something else. We had everything going at a tremendous clip. It was great. <br /><br />My shift was up. The new parents came on, and lo and behold...it changed back. The new kids came one, played around, the parents were washing the cars.<br /><br />And they wonder why the kids never seem to think they're getting enough.Kananihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08317494343177263398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7847873995709228069.post-67030092817534442882010-08-29T13:54:48.081-06:002010-08-29T13:54:48.081-06:00I will help my daughter and encourage her as I sit...I will help my daughter and encourage her as I sit next to her when she does her homework now that she's in kindergarten but I won't do it for her. I point out what her teacher wants her to do/finish and that's it. She won't learn anything if I do it for her. I think you're doing a great job.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7847873995709228069.post-1802089989895355002010-08-29T11:08:23.033-06:002010-08-29T11:08:23.033-06:00Well I'm no parent, but as a college student I...Well I'm no parent, but as a college student I can say that my parents never did any projects for me. They have always helped guide me, but never completed my tasks for me. I think this is SO important! Parents may think by completing their students projects for them is helping them - but in the long run I think it only hinders their child.<br /><br />www.life-itssomethingbeautiful.blogspot.comIt's Something Beautifulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00326583144119440250noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7847873995709228069.post-55112638447276712232010-08-28T21:12:54.386-06:002010-08-28T21:12:54.386-06:00Helping is one thing, and doing it for her is anot...Helping is one thing, and doing it for her is another.<br /><br />You are helping in the best possible way. <br /><br />I'm starting to realize that being a good mom isn't necessarily the most popular idea in my daughter's eyes. And she's only 3! Lol can't wait til she's 13.....Carissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17112144698402306365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7847873995709228069.post-56762781143104394592010-08-28T21:12:49.995-06:002010-08-28T21:12:49.995-06:00Helping is one thing, and doing it for her is anot...Helping is one thing, and doing it for her is another.<br /><br />You are helping in the best possible way. <br /><br />I'm starting to realize that being a good mom isn't necessarily the most popular idea in my daughter's eyes. And she's only 3! Lol can't wait til she's 13.....Carissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17112144698402306365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7847873995709228069.post-87768406884163163722010-08-28T19:57:34.813-06:002010-08-28T19:57:34.813-06:00In my opinion, you're doing it perfectly.In my opinion, you're doing it perfectly.Allisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09666695203677365362noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7847873995709228069.post-23794538718029287612010-08-28T17:24:03.967-06:002010-08-28T17:24:03.967-06:00First off, I agree with everyone so far that has c...First off, I agree with everyone so far that has commented. The kids may not understand the importance now, but in the long run they will. There is nothing like the complete satisfaction when you finish something that you have so hard on. <br /><br />Now, you have three kids, right? You can't just do it for one kid, you'll have to do it for all of them. Can you imagine how difficult it will be for YOU to do all their homework each night all the while doing your normal "Mom" things???? Not to mention, if you are doing their homework, what are they doing? Making a mess? Eating school snacks? Arguing with each other??? All things you will have to fix when you finish the homework, lol. My point, even though we want to protect our kids and make their lives easier, sometimes we have to watch them struggle with things they don't want to do to prepare them for life. That is, unless you foresee them living a silver spoon lifestyle in royalty, in which case they won't need an education at all. <br /><br />In the end, you know the right thing to do, it's just hard to watch them struggle with things. You are a great Mom.<br /><br />Haha, I had fun with this comment. Sorry for the wordiness, I tend to ramble.Just Another MilSpousehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01479557615827258234noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7847873995709228069.post-76991851267784523712010-08-28T16:25:52.702-06:002010-08-28T16:25:52.702-06:00I don't remember your dad or I having anyone d...I don't remember your dad or I having anyone do our projects for us and we turned out well. I do remember ME typing for me in College, but she was a typing whiz for the California National Guard in SLO and was a lot fastr and more accurate than I.Old Cowboy Danhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03603478509472213342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7847873995709228069.post-67736814026521882772010-08-28T16:10:42.467-06:002010-08-28T16:10:42.467-06:00Well, of course you're ruining her life... if ...Well, of course you're ruining her life... if you think teaching her to do her own work, to think for herself, to apply herself, to be independent are bad things.<br /><br />Guilt, my dear. Kids have an ubelievable knack for making us feel it.<br /><br />Don't. You're doing the right thing.<br /><br />cjhCJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07798965643027904154noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7847873995709228069.post-11066051698287994782010-08-28T16:05:12.472-06:002010-08-28T16:05:12.472-06:00Thanks Walrilla, and thanks to you and your family...Thanks Walrilla, and thanks to you and your family as your support your son!ABWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05544504553967017050noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7847873995709228069.post-86685744694414432812010-08-28T16:01:40.117-06:002010-08-28T16:01:40.117-06:00And, although they may beg to differ, you are NOT ...And, although they may beg to differ, you are NOT ruining their life by not doing it for them.<br /><br />Please convey our thanks to your husband for his service, and to you and your family for your service, too.Walrillahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18118496881079783498noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7847873995709228069.post-32598548800476130912010-08-28T16:00:46.865-06:002010-08-28T16:00:46.865-06:00JJ just started PRESCHOOL. He came home with a col...JJ just started PRESCHOOL. He came home with a color page that needed colored. He colored for awhile and then said "mommy you just finish it ok". NO that is NOT ok. I get its only a color page but you are not going to learn anything by having someone else do your work for you. I do think a little help on some things is needed but not to the point where you are the one doing the project.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7847873995709228069.post-23232776504853767572010-08-28T15:59:23.260-06:002010-08-28T15:59:23.260-06:00As a father of a 20 year old Airborne Combat Medic...As a father of a 20 year old Airborne Combat Medic, and a 12 year old "special needs" daughter, I believe the appropriate sentence was already spoken... "I help my kids come up with ideas, materials, and motivate them to do the project, but I believe that they should give it their best shot."... Hmmm, who said that?<br /><br />I believe you already answered your question with the appropriate level of help.<br /><br />B-)Walrillahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18118496881079783498noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7847873995709228069.post-47717842709871662602010-08-28T15:57:46.848-06:002010-08-28T15:57:46.848-06:00This comment has been removed by the author.Walrillahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18118496881079783498noreply@blogger.com