He had deployed for a year before, but we were in Germany and since we had no kids, I threw myself into work, graduate school, and learning German.
We got married when I was 22 and he was 24. We were young, but I had finished college and was pretty independent anyway.
As we are about to embark on our 5th year long deployment, I have changed. So has he.
I know when he leaves, I know that I can handle anything that comes my way. I could the first time, but I still liked to talk it over with him.
I do a lot more things on my own. I don't wait for him to travel or see new things.
trips adventures for when he gets home using some of the extra deployment money.
I make more lists.
I value our time together as a family more.
I don't take certain things for granted.
I maintain traditions for the kids, so they remember the holidays and don't just look at them as "that awful Christmas that daddy was gone".
How have you changed since he deployed? Or if it has been multiple deployments, how have you changed each time?