Saturday, July 31, 2010

Reason #6548483 that I don't care for my inlaws

It was weird.

My MIL was here visiting.  I think she was ready to leave, so she got pissed over absolutely nothing, and left.  Seriously, she was already packed and ready to go, so it was kind of like she was looking for a reason to take off.  I guess she found one.

I wouldn't normally care, but she left without saying goodbye.  Her son is about to leave for a year, and she does something like that?

If you knew "the rest of the story", you would understand why I have a love/hate relationship with them.  Just when I think they are going to get it together, they do something crappy like this.  Unfortunately, this won't be the last time, as ever single time we give them another chance they somehow manage to screw it up.

Gunner was upset.

We just can't figure it out.

BTW, the dog peed on the floor.  So glad that they issued us a house with carpet.


Anonymous said...

*sigh* inlaws...

That's all I can write at the moment because I could write books on my MIL's antics.

Wendy said...

My mother in law is the same way. She's been my MIL for 30 years. We intentially took assignments as far away as possible. One day, someone explained to me that maybe she doesn't know how to say goodbye - so she causes a scene and escapes. That really made sense to me. Now, we make goodbyes gentler for her, help her though. Use compassion, if she doesn't respond, then at least you don't have to feel bad years later. I talked to a therapist about the constant disregulation my inlaws have caused - and trying to understand them has helped. My mil is an extreme narcistic - crazy almost, so now when she pulls one of her stunts, I remember my mother saying, you know it's a dog, don't be surprised when it barks!! Expect it to bark and work from there.
Wishing you peace

Anonymous said...

The one time that my MIL has visited us she did that! Right after my daughter's b-day party, and right before the hubs left for deployment.

Anonymous said...

So sorry to hear you have issues with the MIL. I pray that it one day works itself out! Wendy gave a lot of great advice above! I bet she is having a hard time with her son leaving & just didn't know how to handle it.

God bless!

Uncle Dan said...

Well if you live as long as us, you wont have to worry about Outlaws, they don't live forever.

Birdie said...

Ahhh, in-laws! I don't know what causes them to revert to childish behavior. My in-laws often forget that my Spouse is a grown man with children and a wife and they feel they can still tell him what he's going to do.

Mr. Superman & Mrs. S. said...

I'm sorry sweetie! I think most in-laws are like this and unfortunately its never-ending. If you ever need to vent, feel free. I have some GREAT MIL stories :)

Marilyn Sue said...

My hated ex-MIL once announced within my earshot at a dinner party, with her friends I was just meeting; "That's my daughter-in-law. She is from Indiana. It's like deepest Africa." Not complimentary to me or Africa. How are you supposed to meet someone after that? I just held my head up.

As to the dog, they are empaths and pick up on everything. I am sure he is feeling all the emotions in that house. I should have mentioned, a month after a move is when a dog is at highest risk to be lost. Lots of doors opening and closing and the dog will not know his way home or where he lives. Be sure he has tags on with a current number.

I think your friend is probably right about the goodbyes. As for the compassion toward her -- as the kids say, "Not so much!" I treated my hated ex-MIL with respect and she treated me with contempt. As you can see we are all ex now, so maybe I should have vented! :)

Mallory said...

I've been wanting to read a post about this ever since I saw the play by play on Twitter the other night.

My grandmother(my dad's mom) always used to do this to us. She was a horrible grandmother(I know that sounds bad but it is true) My grandaddy died when I was 3 so it was always just her coming to visit and I don't know that she EVER stayed as long as she was supposed to. She would always get pissed and leave before anyone got up the next morning. Never said goodbye, never told us she was leaving, nothing. Sorry you are having to deal with something similar.

DB said...

The people who lived there previously had animals. If they had issues and the carpet wasn't cleaned really, really well then the dog will mark his territory.