Doesn't that sound great?
Well, it doesn't work. Before I sound selfish, and all that crap, I have three kids that need to be fed and watered, bathed, read stories to, and cuddled before bed. He's gone for a month. A month! I know, I know, I read some blogs where they whine about one night apart being too many, but seriously, it's a month! We've survived 4 years apart, so one month, while not ideal, is not the end of the world after being married over 15 1/2 years.
I tried to talk to him when he called, let him talk to the kids, and then he could listen to me make sure Abs wasn't flooding the bathroom, Junior wasn't off in the dog cage pooping, that dinner isn't burning, that Em isn't using all the hot water, no one is locking themselves in the bathroom, or cramming things down the heater....the list goes on....
If it was once in a while, I could handle it, but every night at the same time.....I had to say something.
Gunner laughed. He understood. He said he'll call me tomorrow morning after everyone is fed, dressed, and I am on the way to the gym. He'll call a couple times a week to talk to the kids, at night.
This works for us.
One of my favorite readers sent me a message and asked me this:
Is it better to talk everyday and have nothing to say or talk every couple of days/to a week and then have a little bit more to talk about? I *like* in theory that he can call each day, but sometimes i just really need to get things done so I take the convo for granted. He uses his magicjack on his computer so it is always there for him to use. I don't want to sound ungrateful but....
I understand that. We've never been in a position where he could call every day though while he is deployed and with Abs around, I always have something to tell him like this, this, this, and this.
When Gunner went to Bosnia, he called all the time, in the middle of the night, and we chit chatted for hours. We had no children though. (I guess he could call in the middle of the night and talk to Abs since she is up anyway.)
So my question is, is there a wrong time to call? If he calls at an inconvenient time, do you say something or drop everything and talk? I'm always excited to hear from Gunner, no matter when he calls, and we will chit chat for a bit and then I will tell him a good time to call back. He can tell when I am stressed and the kids are our first priority across the board. He also knows that chatting via yahoo isn't happening during dinner time and the witching hour while I try to get everyone in bed.
Let me know how you handle calls while your Soldier is TDY or deployed. How often do they call? How do you handle when others get more phone calls than you? Do you keep a running list of things to talk about? Give me your best!