My little sister called today to ask me why we celebrate Cinco De Mayo. I googled it. Her son seemed satisfied with the response, and we learned something.
Then my nephew has questions about his Uncle Gunner and war.
"What happens if a bad guy shoots at the good guys and they aren't looking over there?"
"What happens if a bad guy shoots a rock?"
Simple answers were given to the first question--they have Soldiers that look all over the place for bad guys, in order to stay safe. To the second, it's not a good idea to shoot at rocks.
My kids have asked me some hard questions over the last three deployments to Iraq, and harder questions of their dad.
There are the easy ones such as why are we over there? How long will Daddy be gone? Why does he have to take so much stuff?
Then there are the hard ones that they ask of their dad. Have you shot anyone? (He's managed to put this in basic terms and not answer the question) Has anyone shot at you? What if your gun doesn't work? What if you get scared? What happens if they blow up your vehicle? Do you know anyone who has died? The list goes on and on.
He will answer them in ways that they understand, and he withholds a lot of specific information.
I knew someone that never told their child that their dad was deployed, because it would have upset them too much, so they said he was at work every day (this was an 8 year old).
Me, personally, I would never lie to my kids like that.
Then I have known other children that can spout off explosions, firefights, confirmed kills, etc.
To me, that's insane for a child to know.
What tough questions do your kids ask, and how do you handle them? What do you do if you don't have the answer that satisfies them?